​In FLORIS, flourishing is a communal adventure. The goal is to feel more alive, connected, and more yourself. To support this, FLORIS is a No-Schmucks community.

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By being part of FLORIS, you agree to:

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1. Be kind and curious. No bullying, hate, harassment, or creepy behavior — online or in-person.
    

2. Be generous and give service. Don’t be a Taker, and don’t cause drama.
    

3. Treat every member with respect. Period.
    

4. Keep FLORIS a welcoming, drama-free space: no aggressive selling, no constant pitching, no “networking shark” energy.
    

5. Take responsibility when you mess up. Mistakes happen! Apologize, repair, and grow.
    

Member Referrals
When you refer someone to FLORIS, you are vouching for them—and your referral reflects on you as a member. Please only invite people you genuinely believe will contribute to a kind, curious, and No-Schmucks community. Everyone will know who referred whom, so make sure your referrals are high-quality humans who are here to add to flourishing, not drain the room’s good vibes.

 

Redemption, Second Chances, & Two-Strikes Policy
FLORIS offers the chance for redemption and second chances; flourishing includes growth, repair, and learning. Our No Schmucks Policy is a two-strikes policy: transgressions will be addressed and members given a second chance. After two strikes, outgoing members will be politely shown the door so the wider community can remain vibrant and welcoming. If you experience schmuck behavior, for the sake of our FLORIS community, please communicate to rosie@vonlila.com.

 

What Is Schmuck Behavior?
Schmuck behavior is anything that makes it harder for people to be open, connect, and flourish together. This includes (but is not limited to):

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1. Lying, presenting as true things you know to be false, withholding key truths, or bending reality to protect your ego or image, or manipulate others.
    

2. Manipulating people, conversations, or situations to get what you want.
    

3. Being selfish in a chronic way: taking and never giving, using the group only for your own agenda, or treating people as “contacts” instead of humans.
    

4. Constantly focusing on and communicating What’s Wrong—being a wet sock, a Debbie Downer, or an “energy vampire” who reliably leaves people feeling down after interacting with you.
    

5. Harassing, bullying, or intimidating others—online or in-person—including snide comments, eye-rolling, or sarcasm that lands as mean rather than playful.
    

6. Discriminating against or belittling anyone.
    

7. Ignoring consent and boundaries, such as pushing people to share more than they want, touching without permission, or repeatedly DM’ing after being asked to stop.
    

8. Treating FLORIS as a hunting ground for clients, dates, donors, or followers—relentless pitching, cornering people about your offer, or “networking shark” behavior.
    

9. Talking over people, dominating conversations, or consistently making everything about you without leaving space for others’ voices.
    

10. Bringing into a space substances or behaviors that are out of alignment with the vibe of the gathering.
     

Schmuck behavior is a pattern, not a one-off awkward moment—everyone has bad moments. FLORIS cares about the adventure of growing consciousness and care: if you cross a line, it will be addressed and you may be invited into a repair conversation so you can realign with the flourishing spirit of this community.